Disadvantages of dating older man

COM – DAILY MAIL ONLINE OUT – Russell Simmons and his model girlfriend Julie Henderson enjoy a day at the beach. Last year, I realized that maybe I should start having stricter standards for who I’ll date.

The couple cooled off in the water with Julie showing off the curves that have made her a Sport Illustrated favorite. You know, require that a man own a home, have a job, stuff like that.

According to professionals at Two Of Us, a division of The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center, age differences are often viewed as an obstacle that prevents a mature relationship from developing.

A young woman in a relationship with someone older might may encounter problems that stem from differences in interests, hobbies and overall mind set between her and her boyfriend.

Depending on the age difference, couples may be in different stages of their lives.

It made sense: they have good jobs, they’re settled and own homes, and they’ve finally gotten to the point in their lives where they know how to treat a woman.

We called it the “Grown Men in 2010” challenge, and endeavored to meet as many men at least ten years older than us, but not old enough to be our fathers, as we could.

After about a year of this nonsense, I learned that dating the grown and sexy is just not for me, for six good reasons: 1. I dated Steve, 41, and he was a fun guy, but half of what came out of his mouth seemed like it was from a outtake.

He regularly referred to sex as “getting busy,” or “knocking boots,” which is a lot more of a turn-off when such phrases are used on the first date, believe me.

Another disadvantage is when one of you makes a cultural reference to a commercial you watched as a child, or an "oldie" that you danced to at your prom, and the other can't relate.

This could present challenges to the two of you forming a bond by either highlighting the age difference or because a lack of common cultural references can make communication more difficult. If you're really interested in your older mate, then professionals at Two Of Us recommend that you embrace these differences.

Use this time to learn something interesting about your mate's past experiences.

The most well-known negative stereotype associated with significant age differences between young women and older men is the "sugar daddy" stereotype, which suggests that an older man is financially generous with a younger woman in exchange for her company.

Instead, the older man probably has an established and well-organized routine that has worked for him for years, and he doesn’t want to alter it.

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