Dating married 40

Forget the detox that leaves you light-headed and the Botox that renders you zombie-like.Don't waste money on the sheep's placenta treatment that promises to peel back the passage of time.

Let’s face it, the dating game is not fair to women when it comes to age.

Men can (theoretically) date women 10 years their junior, while women often have to stretch at least as far in the opposite direction.

Are you a high-achieving, strong, spiritual and successful sister who is still single after 40?

Are you starting to lose hope that there are any men who share your values and desires for a committed relationship?

I think it’s very special when senior citizens fall in love and marry.

But if you view marriage as the gateway to having children and raising a family, which I believe most people do, then age matters a great deal.

Those who have a rich, deep history of relationships, and all that goes with that (ex-wives, former loves, kids).

And oftentimes these formerly-partnered-up men are struggling to recover emotionally from that past, and also financially.

I was so busy reading the messages I thought men were sending me – he loves me, he loves me not, he just wants sex – that I never recognised I was sending out a message too.

And it was, loud and clear: "Not Ready to Settle Down." It got me thinking about all the attractive, successful single women I've met over the years – and Shane, whom I knew back in the Eighties, was one of them – and how they seemed to have it all; their professional status, their own homes (and mortgages), their own Mastercard (sometimes gold-plated), their own teeth (sometimes capped and bleached). If ever you watched them in a room full of people at a party, you'd see them refuse to go out of their way to meet the one available man who, usually, had been invited by the hostess with good intentions, especially for them to meet.

It’s a little shocking to women to hear this because they expect the men in their peer group to want similar things as they do.

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