Dating 4 years younger

Not that it was very different from the responses I got from men my age — they were just far less eager and often downright aloof.

One guy I dated on and off I dubbed “Copperfield” (as in magician David Copperfield), as he'd disappear for weeks at a time between dates.

You use it as a reason to blow them off, pare back your options, and fuel embittered stories about how It’s So Hard to Meet Good Men. One of my most popular posts to date is 7 Reasons Why You Should Want to Date an Older Woman. ” followed by a high five, which is kind of odd when you think about it. As I approached my mid 30s, I wondered if this meant I was now a bona fide cougar. The term conjures an image of a hungry, embattled woman with heavily coiffed hair, mummified in makeup, squeezed into a bedazzled top and looking to “score” a young man.

But, when you’re dating someone almost 19 years younger than you are, the association is inevitably going to happen. Well, since my divorce, my experiences in the online dating world have been pretty disastrous, to say the least.

Every time I gave OKCupid a try, I specified my desired age range for a mate to be between 35 and 55 years old — and I’d get constantly barraged with messages from enthusiastic young 20-somethings looking to be my “cub.” The perception that I’m (supposedly) at my sexual peak seemed to be the prime motivation for these boys to reach out to me.

The age gaps spanned anywhere from 10 to 14 years, with women in their late 40s and early 50s enjoying relationships and/or marriage with men in their late 20s or 30s. Couples in this situation had to address the fertility concern head-on, with some choosing to take the leap relatively quickly while others took a pass.

And then there’s also the concern about one’s looks.

Fortunately, that’s changing as more older-woman and younger-man couplings make headlines.

Actress Robin Wright, 47, is engaged to fellow actor Ben Foster, 33.

You don’t need to make like Stifler’s mom and prey on young 18-year-old boys. What you need to do is embrace the incredible sexual power you possess—and stop making excuses for why you can’t. If there’s one complaint I hear from younger men—and the reason they’re interested in older women, is that they’re a little tired of the same old scene and games.

They’re very into the idea of spending time with a woman who brings a little more to the table—a whole world of experience and interests outside of his own. He’s smarter than you think and would welcome a grown-up conversation, not to mention a mature relationship.

When it comes to the subject of love we always hope that there are no real significant barriers to its success.

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